As we know, each case is unique, but there’s always a right and a wrong way to go about divorce or separation. There are several things that both you and your partner can or should do in order to make the procedure go as easily as possible.

Unfortunately, throughout our years of experience in dealing with divorce proceedings, we have encountered a number of couples that were unintentionally or intentionally committing some common mistakes that hindered the process of divorce.

In this post, you’ll get informative guidelines regarding common mistakes to avoid:

 

Failing to Produce Correct Financial Information

Whether you like it or not, finances play a large role in divorce and separation. In order to do things smoothly as soon as possible, both the parties must honestly produce accurate financial information. For instance, the number of marital assets and debts you and your partner have will need to be sorted out, which may require the assistance of an experienced divorce attorney. Draw a realistic budget that represents the marital life standard as well as projected future expenses.  (See Family Code section 2104).

Don’t Let Your Emotions Take Over

We all know that divorce is a stressful and emotional roller coaster, and it is perfectly normal to experience feelings from resentment to anger to grief and to sadness. In order to come together to reach an acceptable agreement, it is crucial to keep your emotions away from the negotiations. A coach or counselor can assist you in processing your sentiments constructively so that you can make smart decisions throughout the proceedings of divorce.

Not Considering Your Children

Divorce and separation can be more complex by adding kids into the process, you will get an entirely new set of situations to think about. Several divorcing couples lose view of the big image, and their kids suffer. When you prioritize your kids’ requirements and interests, everyone will be better off in the future.  (See Family Code section 3011)

Focusing on the Past

If you don’t let go of your past, you will not move forward effectively.  If any one of the spouses remains focused on things that have already happened, it is challenging to shift that focus from the painful past to what the future holds. Counseling can assist you in making a vision for the long-term and creating a plan to accomplish it.

Denying to Compromise

Many couples going through divorce become stuck in a mentality of a ‘my way or the highway,’ that only results in more conflicts and frustration. To reach an amicable agreement that both you and your partner are comfortable with, both of you have the need to compromise. This is the best way to reach a productive, solid middle ground.

Not Taking Appropriate Time to Learn the Options Before the Process Begins

Majority of the couples don’t understand that they can reach an amicable agreement without having to go through a lengthy, drawn-out court case. Navigating during the process of divorce can be difficult, but it doesn’t have to be a tragedy.

By avoiding these mistakes, couples can be better equipped to put their kids first and move forward as smoothly as possible. In order to get further guidance, you may contact the Law Office of Doppelt and Forney, APLC, which has a team of the most competent attorneys. Email Attorney Roy Doppelt and roy@dffamilylaw.com or text (858)880-6689 and get a 30-minute-free consultation with an experienced divorce lawyer!